Surprising Benefits of Semen Retention

Men and women’s bodies are of a multi-orgasmic nature!

There is quite a lot of controversy these days regarding the benefits of frequent ejaculation vs. semen retention for men. (authentictantra.com)

Society is goal oriented when it comes down to sexuality, and this means that the “orgasm production” is paramount according to our mainstream criteria. One of the main reasons as why porn is a 100 billion dollar thriving industry. Though there is a downside, a steep downside, as time eventually tames sexual appeal. When the fantasy fades away. And quite often this may encourage cheating, promiscuity, if the intellectual bound isn’t strong enough. Bodies are traded (this for that) exposing lust as a material envy. Over time partners view one another as less desirable, also because mates or lovers begin to reveal each other’s flaws. Sexual passion is commonly draining because society teaches that to have a commitment, lovers must be a good sexual match to start with. But too often tensions arise in a relationship because the woman doesn’t really like “having sex” but expects “real love making”. The conscious element in sexuality is merely absent. X-rated movies are so misguiding in that sense.

So what is the altermative?

A real bound is not generated by “sexual action” but the mind. The upside of “semen retention” is that it allows men to master their physical reactions and choose quality over quantity. Sexual energy flow is used for a lasting and sensual seduction as intercourse is regarded as a moment of cosmic celebration. There is no rush to get “there” and bodies move at their own rhythm. Such a man knows that any woman is as multi-orgasmic as he is. As a matter of fact, “semen retention” brings about the end of the conflict between genders since a woman who is sexually fulfilled becomes much less possessive, and that means much less drama — if no more drama at all.

Semen retention improves your sex life.

For men, ejaculation and orgasm are two different things. Mastering “semen retention” helps achieve have full-body, multiple orgasms, with each one rolling into the next. It has even been reported that such orgasms can last several minutes for the man. With the right partner, such men can really develop a unique and faithful bound.

Serial monogamy is a widespread template. People move from a monogamous relationship to the next, and generally without too much questioning themselves. Even though many people would agree that sexuality is important, dysfynctional sexual relationships abound, mainly because they cannot express their own cosmic bound. The average time frame of an intercouse is between 5 and 15 minutes, and this means that many people aren’t happy about their sex lives at all. Fast sex, although exciting will appear disappointing in the long run.

Sexual gratification usually takes longer for a woman to achieve, so women need men who can wait for them to be ready. There lies the advantage to practice “semen retention”.

Nature is very clever: once in the bedroom, it is the man who has to dedicated himself to a woman’s needs, so that he can surrender himself to his own multi-orgasmic nature!

Long story short, men and women alike are multi-orgasmic and this is a secret well hidden, which we are not taught in our goal oriented society. Emotional happiness is found by learning about one’s body and overcoming one’s urges.

RECOMMENDATED BOOKS: Mantak Chia Taoist Secrets Of Love Cultivating Male Sexual Energy — and — Healing Love through the Tao: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy By Mantak Chia

 

 

 

 

 

The Paradox Of Sexuality: Force vs Power

Every pair must become one in order to again become two.  Men and women do not escape this two-way reciprocatve  law. Each becomes what the other is. Both are always compromising each other’s unbalance. If the two unbalances are equal and opposite, each  type will survive and grow mentally, spiritually and physically. If the two unbalanced mates  are unequal in their opposition, the penalty is degeneration –  mentally, spiritually and physically. The quality of one mate is a compromise with the quality of the other —  Walter Russell

Today the number of people consulting shrinks is absolutely staggering, and even though all couch-therapies lead to the sensitive examination of emotions and Sexuality, therapists have a little understanding – if none at all – of what is going on on a cosmic dimension and whose effects are directly observable as its Prime Cause is ‘Electricity’, without which the Universe wouldn’t hold together. Being also the Blood of the Universe, Electricity rules over every existing atom, including the very Field of the Mind as neurons electrically process emotions in a fashion that is therefore dual by nature.

A disharmony in thought processing instills a lack of critical awareness. Such a brain is of course a lot more prone to be influenced as it has to cope with the same polarization mirrored by the environment back to it. A balanced brain is characterized by its flexibility to weigh downsides and upsides in any train of thought as nothing is neither entirely true nor false. Too much optimism often blinds one and too much negativity often initiates a radical change for the better. The philosophical issue at stake here is the following: Do we really need to go through states of blindness and radical changes? Since our physical reality implies that perfection doesn’t exists, the focus on limiting as much as possible their occurrence should remain a priority at all time as it would make us happier as a result.

Relationships are an extension of the Self. Emotions are holographic. Crises happen when the thinking sticks to old or rigid paradigms preventing Awareness from expanding, causing not only collective but individual history to repeat themselves. Consequences are often quite harmful. By adaptation to change it is meant coming to term with what it is that cannot be changed or finding a compromise. So when a Mind continually seeks and welcomes new approaches, it can rightfully be assumed that such a Mind is in a state of Self-Love, and of course has more Free Will. After all, the only Free Will that exists is the willingness to notice or not. Being humans also implies that perfection cannot be attained but knowing about such Mechanisms, greatly improves the quality of our perceptions of the Whole and is thus enhancing inner and world peace.

Most people in a romantic relationship do not achieve Self-Love but rather seek a confirmation of their own subjective reality whereas Self-Love is an objective state of being continually challenged by deeply polarized social frameworks. As a matter of fact, until age six or seven, children record everything they hear and see as if in hypnosis mode. Our reward based system is a program. The latter too often determines the later life and makes Self-Love appear as a fantasy steadily eroding a relationship. The lack of Objective Self Image eventually leads to the realization that Lovers appear different over time from who they were in the beginning – but in the process they will gain insight about their polarized selves and be given the opportunity to change if they want to.

In order to avoid the Lust and bondage entanglement, relationships cannot be approached with the gullibility found in movie cliches associating Sex with a miraculous band-aid formula. As a matter of fact, the more Lust at the beginning of a relationship, the more abrupt will the awakening be to the fact that it isn’t. This because Sexuality is a paradox onto itself. A Force and Power at once. With Sexuality comes easily the idea to possess one another. To remain a Force and lead to expansion, its Metaphysics must be comprehended. There is no such a thing such as an innocent little fun, unless expectations are stated clearly from the very beginning, before the first intercourse.

Booms and Busts Of Sex Lives And Why You Were Not Told This!

Most people start a therapy because of their sex lives, often after a break up, because they were never told that sexuality is sacred and have confused lust with love. Lust is a power game and the game will last while it can…

Lust is about power, think about it. And who says power, says FEAR and TAKING.   When the side effects of Lust begin to fade, the ‘intercourse blackmail’ becomes apparent and emotional roller coasters often ensue. Anything is tried to get the ‘fix’ back to square one, and very often at this stage, many will engage in some typical rejection-attraction behavior as a last hope. Such a pattern is nerve racking. Unavoidably Lust is cursed to go bust, more or less rapidly and painfully depending on the realization of what is going on and the understanding that lusty passion is a double edged sword.

As a matter of fact, many fail to comprehend what is occurring and will therefore opt to add another layer of confusion by projecting their frustrations bringing about the worse character’s traits in those involved, instead of taking responsibility and beginning to probe why the inner Fear of Being took over. However, at this stage, it is often difficult to reverse the trend, unless awareness replaces resentment and sorrow. The patterns described in this paragraph highlight the dilemma of all relationships as Sexuality is metaphysically the most powerful Force in the Universe ruled by the Absoluteness of the Oneness Principle which manifests Itself in the form of an orgasm symbolizing the Force of Creation  .

Bondage is the mere continuation of Lust going bust when not acted upon it. When one has become addicted to the ups and downs of sexual and emotional drama at the risk to lose one’ self. With bondage comes also the Fear to walk away as the loss of self-confidence erodes the willingness to restart from scratch. When the bondage is severe enough, the relationship may become sexless.

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The Paradox Of Sexuality: Self-Love Versus Hedonism

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The topic of sexual Liberty is a very daunting one as each individual has his own definition about it. To sort this fractal-like equation out we ought first to ask: what is Liberty to start with? A complex question with a simple answer: Liberty is symbolized by non-coercive actions occurring between people. But since there must be a resistance for Self Awareness to expand, coercion does exist within, in the motion of the Fear of Being. The less Fear of Being, the more Liberty – or Freedom – and not only sexually but in the broad sense. To objectively know one’ Self has to remain a primary drive at all time otherwise any experience will just reawake the same dilemmas and as it often is the case, even exacerbate them. It is quite common, however, to engage in some hedonistic pursuit for a while then all of a sudden, and no matter how pleasurable the latter is, run into an dilemma demanding to requestion the very experience. This happens when Self Awareness can no longer expand due to the depletion of the inner energy flow, causing a Synchronicity Collapse, which is often perceived as the consequence of other external factors. Everything happens for a reason. Too much positive leads to its opposite – and otherwise.  That is precisely why religious dogmas vilify sexual Liberty but also foresee the possible awakening to full Awareness through  Sexuality as an even bigger menace.

These days, Hedonism seems to be everywhere because Sex always sells, and thus has fallen prey to the Left-Brained society we live in. Despite the so many ‘circles’ offering pleasure, there isn’t much Hedonism in this economic landscape but the opportunity to access a quick boost to cope with the daily routine, though one may encounter a few real Hedonists hanging out at those happenings.  Too often pairs of lovers or spouses mainly choose Hedonism because they either seek to spice up their fading intimacy (relationship could be at stake) or consider the move as authorized cheating to secure the future. If there is any materialistic aim, such as regarding Sex as an investment tool, Hedonism is not going to be fulfilling but rather used as an escape from the Fear Of Being.

Although Sexuality’s primary drive is to learn about Fear and master Self-Love, Hedonism is a path highlighting this even more. The fact is that the quest for Self-Love allows to overcome the temptation to use Sexuality as a power tool and/or be dominated by it.  The only upside is that monetized hedonistic circles   do exist to show why the mainstream attitude towards Sex has to break through its own paradigm — in order to end the monetization of Sex.

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The Paradox Of Sexuality: When Qualities And Flaws Complete One Another

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Love seeks to expresses Itself in all relationships, romantic or not. Empathy, compassion and respect are Its derived motions and cannot be enforced in any way. Forcing one’s will or perceptions onto a partner or lover will just aggravate conflicts, and even possibly paving the way for a breakup. The Unconditional Now will always reveal itself, if the relationship is destined to expand, that  qualities and flaws complete one another . The lacks of one is resolved by the qualities of the other – and otherwise. A pair has to be complementary but also allow Free Will to continually challenge this complementarity . This is the only way to make any relationship last. Although The term ‘soul mate’ is kind of distortion making one fantasizes about what is perceived as the right companion to achieve Equilibrium, very few will experience this because any relationship must exhibit polar-opposite components to be able to thrive.

Being overly preoccupied with the long-term future causes more ‘left-brained’ problems in the now. This Duality is inescapable. Moreover, it teaches us to follow our passions and dreams. Seeking to control romantic moods and outcomes is what causes irrational worries. Love represents an infinite creativity always occurring in the now and goes by the Natural Law of Cause and Effect, or Synchronicity. Just like for an artist or scientist meticulously working step by step and giving a daily undivided attention to their goal with their minds. Any human being can sense or feel a state of Love but many do not know how to set it into motion because of external or/and internal coercive factors.

There is no model for Love to manifest as the Unconditional Now, although there are three possibilities. The first one is ‘spontaneous faithfulness or monogamy’ which characterizes mates organically drawn to each other. Serial monogamy is a stretched version of it and is the most widespread trend and doesn’t imply always faithfulness. The second is ‘spontaneous loving’ characterized by a polyamory lifestyle openly involving at least two – steady or not – relationships. And the third, ‘universal loving’ characterized by the choice to remain a single evolving without any kind of deep and long term bound, and which also is generally adopted by those who wish to experience long periods of time of Asceticism as their own connection to The Oneness is a constant primary drive. The word Asceticism is preferred over Abstinence as the Latter isn’t always voluntary.

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When And Why Is Sex Overrated

Yes it is, mainly because seduction is a form of trade that fills the void induced by a feeling of aloneness reminding that any orgasmic pursuit can never be satiated. Seduction is itself dual as a motion but in our hyper materialistic society praising egos and quest for domination, seduction is associated with ‘power”. When self-love takes over seduction, then sexuality will be highly fulfilling. Many project in a mate the love they cannot nurture within. Self-love is the foundation of long-term and sacred relationships. It is self-love again that should determine the level of attraction but in our modern society, everything is about the “look” and thus way too often deceptive. Sex does not escape the rule.

Force is Creation. Power, Destruction. In both energies flow the characteristics of the other, which only the mind can balance to avoid the conflicts arising from walking too far from the thin line in the middle. Sexuality is above all the creative affirmation of Selflessness as a Force as it is which of the Oneness. It is the failure to comprehend the nature of this Force that makes one want to repeat the passionate lust game which will not only bring about new highs but also the next series of self delusions in its wake.

Many people make romantic mistakes because they thought to have it all, because they fell for a state of sexual passion that blinded them to the Reality of what is. They all eventually learned the heavy price of passion. Make no mistake when lust is hard to resist, the latter will come along with a price tag. Gluttony is perceived by many belief systems as a capital sin, the logic behind is easy to grasp. So when it comes down to lust, the same of course applies.

People who practice Tantric Sex have actually intercourse occasionally and but master quality, what most of the books about the subject tend avoid because sex must sell. As a matter of fact, Tranric Sex first requires the mastery of Self-Love which brings about inner balance.

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The Advantage Of A Sacred Relationship

Learning about self-love is paramount to quit pressurizing a romantic relationship, but on the other hand that is what relationships are for: to learn about the self.  Relationships as a whole offer this opportunity, although one learns much faster when sexuality is involved because sex reveals the Ego’ s Fear of Being. A disharmonious self creates unbalanced surroundings. Both, the self and the environment are mirrors of one another, as The Principle Of Correspondence indicates.

Being in Love  is a state of Mind that allows a 3rd choice essential to expansion. Relationships that thrive the most are which whose partners are not overly focused on security, emotional and material.  The best relationships work in the *now* because neither projects the Fear to lose his or her mate. When  they do not, the  Economics of Sex takes over, and relationships begin to mimic a  mercantile aspect (partners trade their security) which has been the  most prevalent form of relationship in our left-brained and materialistic society. Dysfunctional families are the consequence of that very shaky premise.

Unfortunately  or not, today, serial monogamy is too the most common model for  partners therefore. When a relationship does not work, separation is often the  1st choice, the 2nd is remaining together because moving on  is kind of scary or financially difficult. Serial  monogamy is passed on to from a generation to the next, and although  this behavior has more downsides than upsides,  interestingly it is very  common to witness that the 3rd or 4th romantic attempt  (with a different partner) is generally more  fruitful as the two sides of the fence have been tested and accumulated experience in  knowing their own selves. Some people will need more than a 4th  attempt though. Some may never find out because they haven’t comprehended their own Fear Of Being.

Eventually serial monogamy will end, when a more deep knowledge about the self has  been assimilated and with the encounter with someone on  the same path and  having learned a great deal about his/her own thought processes. Such a  pair is now ready to truly Love.

When  we look at Nature, animals only mate to procreate. And the same observation holds absolutely true for any living organisms. They basically have no  other choice. For humans it is kind of different because they evolve in a  higher realm of awareness, meaning that they must learn about Love and Its inherent processes. And this means that sexuality serves three purposes: mating, excitement or cosmic loving. Excitement (polarization) is always short lived and that is why it also has sold so well throughout the ages. In relationships, passion only lasts while it can, up to 2 years at the most. As for mating, it is a huge responsibility that comes with many strings attached. So mating offers very limited occasions in the end.

A Sacred Relationship is by definition a romance that hasn’t started up by burning out its fuel called sexual energy. A Sacred Relationship also is an interaction that is more intellectual, though very flirty at time. Such a position allows feelings to deepen… or will manifest that quest for that special mate still is open. A Sacred Relationship starts thus with the Mind, which is the 1st Natural Law, the cause and effect of everything, but then expresses itself with the Heart. When a relationship chooses sexual expression first, generally the vibrations stay at that level because the latter can’t seem to move beyond the polarity they have created, male vs female, and burn out their fuel as a result.

Very often people who have been through a torrid passion, end up exhausted or wasted and find their (ex) partner less attractive overtime. Only the Mind and the Heart can prevent the spilling of the fuel. A Sacred relationship regards intimacy as a plus to enhance Love as  lovers or mates have a balanced lifestyle, and that they know about the dangers of fuel burning. They will thus find cheating unappealing and moderate their own intimacy spontaneously, without creating any frustration of any kind. Sexual Energy is for them Sacred.

Besides asceticism, that’s the only choices we have as humans: excitement that always sends us back in full circle to square one … or Sacred Intimacy in harmony with the Balanced Universe and which helps one attain the full awareness of the self

Celine K is a metaphysicist-metaphilosopher and has written: The Laws Of Light, Emotions And Sexuality, a free ebook available at celinek.net. The forum is still quiet but please sign up to discuss the Universal Laws and how they affect human emotions.

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A Taoist Advice For Sacred Relationships

Although Sex has always fascinated and sold, the Commerce of Sex breeds more conflicts that it resolves them, unless it is devoid from the slightest romantic or even friendly attachment, what is observable in pornographic movies. Though the way Pornography is perceived is misleading because actors, no matter how liberated they claim to be, evolve in a such extreme left brained reality, that their personal lives are real emotional roller coasters.

Money and emotions just do not mix. Consumerism often ruins sex lives, that is why the porn industry is an almost $100 billion business worldwide.  The Commerce of Sex sensationalizing orgasmic bliss increases the addictive need for lust, which is the materialistic expression of Sex, hence causing divorces to skyrocket. Sex cannot be used as a daily or even weekly fix, although it is what the field of psychology generally recommends.

As soon as Sex involves deep emotions, relationships become intrinsically a lot more complex and sexuality will slowly begin to reveal individual’s weaknesses rather than one’s qualities. This because with passion also comes the fear to lose one’s new lover or mate. And fear is going to extract first all our insecurities from deep within, which lovers usually appease with promises of a long-term commitment.

When the side effects of Lust begin to fade, the ‘intercourse blackmail’ becomes apparent and emotional roller coasters often ensue. Many may begin to engage in some typical rejection-attraction behavior as a last hope.  Most men tend to be into ‘phallic securization’ instinctively whereas most women who are more nurturing by nature will play innocently – or not – the seduction game thinking that more commitment will reward them.  Women and men alike have to come to terms with such expectations….  if they wish their relationship to thrive.

Sacred Relationship is by definition a thriving romance that hasn’t started up by burning out its fuel called sexual energy. For such lovers or mates  Sexual Energy is  Sacred. This form of Loving opens the door to a Taoist or Tantric exploration of Sexuality.  Both regard Sexuality as mode to explore the Oneness of the Universe and equally value quality over quantity.  That is precisely why, in general, most religious dogmas vilify sexual Liberty (non-coercive relationships) but also foresee the possible awakening to full Awareness through Sexuality as an even bigger menace!

The constant mating of the elements tells us that we live in a Sexed Universe and this means that Sexuality is a Force to connect ‘directly’ with The Oneness. A thriving sexual balance within any relationship has mastered the above and understood even more than Sexual Pleasure  is a gift from the Divine — and that there exist a few rules to avoid hurting oneself with It. That is precisely why all women have a multi-orgasmic potential when having intercourse with a partner that has mastered the control of his own fuel burning, hence discovered too his own multi-orgasmic body. Cosmic Sexuality works in reverse: it is the Masculine Principle first that nurtures the Feminine Principle. It is the hidden and main cause of sexual frustrations for both sexes, and even more so for women who may develop (extreme) jealousy over time. We should no longer wonder about where the generational ‘gender war’ originates from.

Celine K is a metaphysicist-metaphilosopher and has written: The Laws Of Light, Emotions And Sexuality, a free ebook available at www.celinek.net .

How To Resolve The Cosmic Abandonment Syndrome

Before understanding the Law of Cause and Effect (aka Karma), there is a similar fact we all share and makes us all even when we go through painful processes and realizations.  There is a syndrome that not many thinkers talk about and which is the fear of being that we all inherit and experience at birth.

And there is a reason as why this fear of being, again linked to birth, is often left out by academics: simply because it would dismantle the fields of mainstream psychology/psychoanalysis, and even psychiatry. It is in the Academia’ s interest (yes and again let’s follow the money) to “occult” this approach, because more people finding out about tensions affecting their life purposes, is precisely what the Academia fears the most.

The birth trauma should be adopted as the centerpiece of social behaviors in the sense that it does explain where all the world violence comes from – and its ramification to the this very syndrome. Violence and suffering point to the latter as the prime cause. Societies exploit subliminally a pain that all people can unconsciously relate to.

As a matter of fact and this may sound paradoxical, the trauma of birth and the ensuing fear or being do exist to help us make sense of the “Cosmic Abandonment”, the detachment from the womb that we all went through at the beginning of our existence. The Universe being a giant womb and Source of all life. The fear of being thus reminds of this “Cosmic Abandonment” but also induces the counter  motion, the need for a “Cosmic Reconciliation”. Reunification with the Source. The One.

From this very perspective, it becomes also increasingly clear that peace in the world will remain difficult to achieve as long as the cause of the “Cosmic Abandonment” is not explained to kids very early in life, because the fear of being is too the very root cause of religious fundamentalismm keeping alive and the separation between spirituality and science; and resulting in a dangerous inner fragmentation that has allowed “the strings of power” to manipulate societies since ever.

Indeed, we should not expect mainstream psychology/psychoanalysis, and even philosophy, to end the status quo, otherwise they would put themselves out of business!!!

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FREE EBOOK:  The Trauma of Birth is a 1924 book by psychoanalyst Otto Rank, first published in English translation in 1929.  If this book could easily be revisited today with a metaphysical edge, it remains nonetheless an important  reference.